No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending
by Esther Fleece
Source: BookLook Bloggers, HarperCollins Publishers
If you’ve ever been given empty clichés during challenging times, you know how painful it can feel to be misunderstood by well-meaning people. Far too often, it seems the response we get to our hurt and disappointment is to suck it up, or pray it away.
But Scripture reveals a God who meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be.
No More Faking Fine is your invitation to get gut-level honest with God through the life-giving language of lament. Lament, a practice woven throughout Scripture, is a prayer that God never ignores, never silences, and never wastes. As author Esther Fleece says, “Lament is the unexpected pathway to true intimacy with God, and with those around us.”
Esther learned this the hard way, by believing she could shut down painful emotions that haunted her from a broken past she tried to forget on her fast track to success. But in silencing her pain, she robbed herself of the opportunity to be healed. Maybe you’ve done the same.
No More Faking Fine is your permission to lament—to give voice to the hurt, frustration, and disappointment you’ve kept inside and silenced for too long. Drawing from careful biblical study and hard-won insight, Esther reveals how to use God’s own language to draw closer to Him as He leads us through any darkness into His marvelous light.
5+ of 5 Stars
The only way I can explain how much I appreciated this book is by declaring that it has a permanent place on my bookshelf. It’s also on my very short list of books that I will reread, probably multiple times. First, I picked this book because I’ve been actively trying to read more nonfiction, specifically more Christian nonfiction. I want to explore my faith more and books like this really help in that regard.
Perhaps the biggest reason I appreciated this book is that it’s reaching me in a time in my life when I really need it. I’m going through some intense therapy and starting to push myself a lot more into recovery. In my experience, the church, in general, can get heavily wrapped up in happiness, joy, and ‘everlasting peace’. I find that I latch onto books and concepts like this one that declare that it’s okay to be not okay. Sometimes I forget in my own faith that I can bring all of my emotions to the table and not just the positive ones. Through the book my heart went out to the author as she shared her own experiences. They differ from mine but the emotions and thoughts that went behind them were easily relatable. While some books of this style often are more memoir in style I found that this book was an encouraging balance of back story and biblical teaching. I was able to pull specific passages from the bible that related directly to her story which in turn I was able to relate to my own.
I admit this book has a fairly specific target audience, Christians who are hurting or grieving in some way. I’m involved in Celebrate Recovery which is a nationwide Christ-centered ministry inspired by twelve step groups so I’m surrounded by this audience quite often. While this is the group that the book would directly help the most I think most Christians would get a lot out of this book even if it’s just ways to encourage others who are going through difficult times.